Baby Sleeping With Parents
"I will be going back to work full-time soon. My son still wakes up frequently during the night to be fed (he is exclusively breast fed). If I keep him in bed with me he goes back to sleep right after feeding and I get more sleep as a result. My husband doesn't think it's a good idea to have him in our bed. He's afraid the baby won't sleep in his own bed later on. The baby is 3 months old. I would like to hear your opinions on this. Thank you."
"My son is exclusively breastfed 12 month old. I quit my job to start the most important job of my life ... parenting. I would say we sacrifice but we do not. My husband and I live simple lives where we breastfeed (cheap), cotton diaper, (cheap), family bed and plan to homeschool. My son is the happiest, most content, healthy baby you will ever know. There is nothing wrong with co-sleeping. There are times my husband asks me to put our son in the middle so he can snuggle with him also. You have to do what works for you. Do you want your baby to learn you are not there for him/her? Do you want them to attach to a blanket or other object for their safety and warmth? Follow your intuition and you might need to sacrifice a fancy car, large home, vacation ... for your family life. I love the choices my husband and I have made. Good luck to you and your little ones. "
"I would really like to encourage you to continue to have a family bed for a couple of reasons: (1) when you go back to work, the baby will probably step up his nighttime nursing. By keeping the baby in bed with you, she will be able to roll over and nurse without moving very much or waking up very much. Nursing lying down is a valuable skill to learn! Not having to get up to care for the baby, or not being awakened by the baby's crying will help her get more sleep. (2) The closeness of the family bed helps to offset the separation during the day. The baby may want to stay in the parents' bed for longer than is customary for American families (co-family sleeping is much more common in other countries), but if his night time needs are met, he will want to have his own bed eventually. You won't have a teenager sharing your bed! One thing this family can try is a `sidecar'. You can put the crib next to the bed with the side down and the mattress adjusted to bed height. Put a blanket across the crack between the mattresses, and the baby will be in his own bed, but close to mom. He can roll out for nursing, then roll back when he's back asleep. Don't be afraid to try it. It works wonderfully for us!
"Your husband is not the one who has to get up time, after time, after time. I found the quality of sleep I got was much better when my daughter slept right next to me. We sold the crib when she was small and bought a king size bed. I did not have to fully awaken and neither did she. Also there was no crying during the night. With your baby right next to you there is no reason for the baby to have to cry to get your attention. Because of this my husband found he slept better also. I was more rested and easier to get along with during the day. This might be an advantage for your husband also. You might have your husband read The Family Bed by, and Night Time Parenting by William Sears M.D.
Although my daughter is now almost 4 and still sleeping with us because we all enjoy it, I believe we will be able to make the transition someday when she is ready to sleep in her own room. We make other transitions: weaning; sending them to pre-school; leaving them with other care-givers; etc. This is just another one. Stick to what you believe in. You can not go back in time and relive your son's first (or 2nd or 3rd) year of life."
"I did that (breast fed my baby to sleep with me in my bed) with my son (who's now 5) when he was a baby. He turned out fine. He's one of the most independent, personable children I've ever seen. I think when you make them feel secure as infants, they grow up more confident and self assured. I wouldn't worry at all about it."
"Every baby's different, you may or may not have a problem with this. Perhaps if you didn't do it all the time, just week-ends maybe, so he has a chance to be comfortable in his own bed. Then gradually increase it. He has to `learn' to fall back to sleep on his own. If he cries, comfort him but let more time go by each time before comforting him."
"How about a bassinet right by the crib. That way he's close by but still in his own bed. I agree with your husband and don't think children should sleep on a regular basis with their parents, but also it could be time to supplement his breast milk with some cereal, he might just be too hungry to sleep through the night."
"My daughter was also exclusively breast fed and did the same thing. What I did was feed her as I normally would, then with her bassinet next to my bed, I would lay her down on a standard size pillow with her pacifier and sing and rock her until she was asleep. If she awoke I would sing and rock her back to sleep. She was cured soon afterwards."
'As a father of three now-grown sons (one is 25, the twins are 22) who all slept in the family bed with us, I'd like to report that it was wonderfully successful. All three have grown up to be fine, caring people. Our twin sons, who slept with us from very early-on, are exceptionally warm people with a wealth of friends. All of them made transitions to their own beds without prompting. (Sometimes afterwards they would fall asleep with us when they came in to hang out in the evening.)
By the way, since home-schooling seems to go with the family bed in a lot of cases, I'll report that this was also a great success that took its own course according to the child. Chris, our oldest, tried the 8th grade in our terrible middle school after being home-schooled, and decided to return to home-schooling for high school. That decision gave him the freedom that allowed him to get a pilot's license at the same time (or maybe before) he got his driver's license. He's a captain on a commuter airline at 25. Ben and Tom were home-schooled until 6th grade. Their attitude when they got to school was: "All this for us!" for a few months. Then they got less enthusiastic but stuck with it because of their friends. They've graduated from college now, and both of them look back on their home-schooled, TV-less start as a good thing."
"I think it's a good idea for infants to sleep with parents. It's convenient to nurse, cozy and a good way to prevent SID. Our two girls were moved to their own crib when they got too wiggly ore were old enough to be disturbed my mom and dad talking and reading in bed, I guess around 4 months. Our 2 1/2 year old has always liked sleeping by herself until the new baby arrived. Now we have a rule she must go to bed at her bed time but our door is always open if she wants to sleep with us. We also bought a youth size futon to put by our bed so sometimes she sleeps there. Then we roll it up during the day. Most of the time though, maybe 2 to 3 times a week, she'll crawl into bed to cuddle, then 5 or 10 minutes later sh's walking back to her room. She is a very happy and secure little girl. I feel confident that some day she'll want to just sleep by herself or with her sister. I feel good that we are not shutting her out."
"A 3 month old is physically capable of sleeping through the night or getting by on one night time feeding. It seems the baby may be associating going to sleep with being fed so that each time he wakes at night he needs you to help him get back to sleep. You need uninterrupted sleep and so does he! The book `Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems' by Ferber helped us a lot with our first son who was a frequent waker until six months old. At that time I thought that he needed those feedings when actually he really didn't. He learned to go back to sleep on his own and the result was a rested, happier baby and mom! Also I think having the baby in bed interferes with private time and intimacy between parents."
"He will sleep even better - in his own bed later. Our 19 month old slept with us from day one. He would start off in his crib and when he woke for a feeding, he stayed in our bed. I got more sleep, my husband did and the baby did when he slept close to the one's he loves. Now he rarely wakes up to come to our bed. He made the switch himself over time. We tried to make our 1st son sleep in his crib most of the time, and he never slept as well as #2. Even now he wakes up frequently at night. (He's five!) Trust your mothering instincts!!"
"Give him baby food (keeps tummy full longer) before he goes to bed with breast feeding. Your baby will wake up just around the time your husband gets up for work. It will be a special time for your husband and baby before he goes to work. Then while husband is getting ready for work or after he goes, you can feed baby. And best of all, nap together."
"As an infant, my son nursed almost every hour all night. Getting up to feed him that often, I was exhausted and crabby in the morning. My husband didn't want him in bed with us because then he didn't sleep well. So I put a twin size mattress on the floor in my son's room. If I felt awake I would nurse and then go back to my own bed, if not I would sleep with my son. My husband was very understanding. Now my son is 1 1/2 years old. The mattress has been put on a frame now that he can climb down by himself, and it is his own bed. He still nurses once a night, but I mostly sleep in my own bed now. I have been very pleased with this arrangement. My son is happy and secure, he loves bedtime, and he gets up by himself in the morning and greets us with a big `Hi!'."
"The most important thing right now is your rest and the baby's rest. With our 1st son we had him sleep with us many nights and he had no problem sleeping in his own bed. Anyhow, what's wrong with `The Family Bed'? It makes everyone feel safe, happy and secure!"
"After having one child and now looking toward having another baby in about a week, one thing I know I want to do is follow my instincts more closely this second time through babyhood. However, I also think that parents should agree on most ways of raising their children. So, to be brief, follow your instincts as to what's right, consult with your husband, and trust that you two are doing what's best for your son."
"Is not going back to work an option? You might read Le Leche League's `Womanly Art of Breastfeeding' chapter on working outside the home; sometimes changes in lifestyle can make staying home affordable. How much will the child care cost vs. how much you will make? They're only little once. If it's not an option, try a small crib in your room next to your bed - you have less far to go and baby is in his own bed. Worked for me past 6 months."
"We kept our daughter (in a basket) in our room until she was about 3 months old, when we then put her in her own room in a crib. She seemed to wake up less frequently after the change, or she quickly went back to sleep if she woke up. I don't think it's a bad idea to keep the baby in your room/bed, but everyone may get more sleep if you don't."
"In a couple of years you'll possible be introducing your son to a twin bed. Would your consider buying a portable guard rail now? That way your baby can sleep on the side of the bed, allowing you to enjoy the middle of the bed without fear of your son rolling off. Yes, the day will come when you will want to wean him from this sleep arrangement. A handful of nights of the patient consistency, and your son will understand the new sleeping policy. They learn fast!
"You've heard it said before, after three nights of reassuring but not picking up your child he will begin to sleep through the night. I know it's hard but really in the long run you will be doing both you and your son a favor. Good luck!"
"Our 1st child was breast fed and I took her to bed with me during night feedings. Following the feeding I put her back in her crib. I found that as she slept longer, eventually she never left the crib. I wouldn't worry about your son not sleeping in his own bed later on. Just be sure he doesn't sleep with you all night. Put him back in his crib as soon as you are done nursing."
"If you both agree you'd like the baby in his crib, then move him now. (It gets more difficult to move an older baby.) You will lose more sleep at first but he will adjust soon and it will pay off. Can your husband change the diaper and bring the baby in to you for at least one of the feedings?"
"I am finding that changing a child's routine is no big deal if the parents are calm and matter of fact about it. What is the difference in going from a crib to a big bed versus your bed to his own? Yes he'll have to give up mom and dad, but if you both are firm and together on the time to move, I'll bet he won't fuss, at least not much. The only time we have problems with change is when we aren't a team regarding the decision."
"Having had two children who slept in our bed now peacefully asleep in their own beds, and the third lying next to me now, I can assure you he will sleep alone when he's ready - even look forward to the graduation to his own bed. More importantly, it is a gift to yourself and your baby to be sleeping together now. Having you near to touch all night may well be reassuring and developmentally healthy for him, especially when you're working during the day. He may even nurse a great deal more at night to make up for lost time. That would be normal and beneficial to him due to all the advantages of breastfeeding. For you, it's definitely the better way to get more sleep and to have the opportunity to meet those needs that will only las a `season'."
"I have a 3 month old daughter, and I bring her to bed with me to nurse. I've gotten some criticism for this, but I think I have a good defense. Going back to work brings on stress, fatigue, and less time for nursing, all of which can decrease a woman's milk supply. My baby nurses for long periods, even in her sleep, and this stimulation keeps my milk supply up even though we can't breast feed during the day. And I can sleep while she nurses too. I put her in her own bed at the beginning of the night, so she can get used to it, and bring her to my bed the first time she wakes up. If your husband still doesn't agree, tell him that I do it, and I'm a pediatrician!"
"Our nearly 2 year old son had a lot of trouble with his sleeping the first 3 months too, but for a long time now he's slept straight through from 8 p.m. to 8 a.m. You may have to lose a little sleep for a while, but get him used to sleeping on his own, in his own bed! He needs to learn this as early as he can! He may fuss a lot at first, but he'll survive. Your husband is right! The longer the baby sleeps with you, the harder it will be for him to ever sleep alone!"
"First, congratulations on your decision to breast feed, I hope you continue as long as appropriate. My daughter is 5 months and began sleeping well during the night about 2 months ago. But on nights when she's fussy, I sleep in the twin bed we set up in her nursery and she sleeps with me. This works great and everyone sleeps better. Now I rarely have to sleep in the twin bed as she has become more independent."
"I have several ideas - 1st of all, in many cultures children sleep with the parents - without any ill effects. Perhaps your son could continue sleeping with you and your husband until he is weaned. At that time, he could begin sleeping in his own bed. This approach, of course would only work with your husband's support. A child (even a baby) can sense ambiguity in the parents' responses. Another idea is to move his crib into your room at night. You also may try to limit night time feedings. A 3 month old within normal weight limits shouldn't be waking so frequently. Try feeding him more late in the evenings."
"Don't run in every time your child cries. Many times children cry in their sleep and aren't really hungry. Give him a few minutes before you go in to pick him up. He'll soon start sleeping longer between feedings. He is so young that this bed thing won't affect him if it isn't continued at 6 to 12 months, for example. I had this same problem with my son and the advice given me was to not run in there every time he cries and pick him up really helped. I also rocked his bassinet, which was next to our bed for the first few months of his life, when he cried, and many times he went back to sleep. When he wouldn't, I knew he was hungry."
"Is your baby sleeping in the same room with you and your husband? If so, try and move him into another room (even if it's the living room) at least at night. At 3 months, his sleeping should be longer between feedings, even when he's fed breast milk. If he's too close to your room you may just be hearing him move and whimper a little. Wait to see if it's a real hunger cry. It may be better for all concerned if you take a few nights of rocking him back to sleep or patting his butt gently. Eventually he should sleep longer and not having him between you and your husband will be a plus for your marriage!"
"Take heart, I experienced the very same thing with all my 5 children. The 5th is now 2 years old. We knew from the 4 other experiences with our own children and sleeping at night that each child is different but we kept in mind the process we needed to follow. Each child has their individual personalities and will react in their own way to the same treatment. I've nursed each of our children and for a while took each of them to bed with us during the night, especially the frequent nursers. When the children were weaned to a bottle, the vigil of being up at night usually stopped. I say usually because I nursed each child for different lengths of time. The children who stopped at 9 months or earlier, had no problem with sleeping in their own bed. I worked through all their childhoods. My 5th child was nursed till he was 14 months and I worked since he was 4 months. He didn't get to use a bottle until he was a year and that we had to teach him to use. Now the point of all of this is to bring out the fact that each child is different and as long as you have your process in mind and show love in all that you do, your child will accept what must be. Remember too that as long as he isn't in school and sleeping with you he will grow out of it as you gently put him back if he happens to crawl in with you during the night."
"My theory has been to do whatever you need to do in order to get more sleep. I think we need to realize that the tradition of children sleeping alone is a cultural or societal ideal. Not all societies have their children sleep alone. Also, it's difficult to separate from your loved ones. How many of us prefer to sleep alone? More power to you - get some sleep."
"Right now it is more important for you to do whatever will enable you to get more sleep. What works well for me is to put my 4 month old to bed in his crib. When he wakes up for his feedings during the night, I nurse him in our bed. Usually we both fall back to sleep within about 15 minutes. If I wake up again, I will put him back into his crib, otherwise he just sleeps with my husband and I for the rest of the night. This way, our son has learned that his crib is for sleeping and yet at the same time we can benefit from the advantages of him being in the bed with us."
"My breast fed baby required might feedings, but fortunately he went to sleep right after feeding so I'd put him down in his crib. It was no more inconvenient to get up, feed him in a comfortable chair in his room, then put him down in his own crib. You don't mention if your baby will take a bottle (of expressed milk). If he isn't and you plan to leave him with a day-care provider, I suggest you get him used to taking a bottle before going back to work."
"Put him in his own bed! If not, he'll get used to sleeping with you and the older he gets the harder it will be. I used to have a heating pad under a blanket in the baby's bed. When they awoke to nurse I would turn it on low. When I put her back in bed I turned it off. Laying them on a warm spot made a big difference. Also, one of my babies slept best in an elevated infant seat. She slept that way until she was almost 4 months old. A friend of min's baby slept in her swing for 3 months. Whatever works for mom and baby to get some sleep is worth a try."
"Having the same problem, but my baby wasn't interested in sleeping alone until 9 months. Start to introduce a bottle of breast milk now so he can have some security when you're not there."
"I was in the same situation. We put our son in his crib until he woke up at about 3 a.m. He then was nursed and slept with us the rest of the night. I nursed again right before getting up while he fell back asleep allowing me to get ready for work. He is now 13 months old and sleeps through the night. We knew he would reach this point since not too many 15 year old's still want to sleep with mom and dad. We all got more sleep and our son was able to feel warm and secure with us at night since we did not see him for much of the day."
"We did that with our son too. We didn't have a problem with him sleeping in his own bed later on. Our problem was that as he got older he moved around a lot and kept kicking us."
"As frustrating as it may be, it is important to get him accustomed to sleeping in his bed. Not only for him but for you and your husband's sake, to reestablish your privacy `territory'. It may take a few fussy nights to get him used to the idea but the longer you wait the greater the number of fussy nights you'll have to contend with later on, since this situation is inevitable."
"I think that it's more likely for him not to like his own bed if he sleeps in your bed all night. I always put my kids in their own beds after they were in a good sleep."
"In my experience, babies waking in the night often indicated they needed more milk in the evening. I supplemented with 1 four to 6 ounce bottle at 8:00 p.m. She started sleeping through the night - a necessity for a working mom. It didn't hurt my milk supply! I'm still nursing at 19 months!"
"It's totally natural and comforting for both you and your baby to want to be close at night. Obviously, children do not spring from the womb fully equipped to be independent, self-sufficient beings so we either enjoy or tolerate their temporary dependence on us. Maybe your husband could communicate more with you about why he doesn't think it's a good idea for baby to have closeness with you at night. A reading of `The Family Bed' (Thevin) will surely explode for you any notion that sleeping with mom and dad causes any future behavior or personality problems."
"I nursed my baby until she was 4 months old and I, too, would let her fall asleep in bed with us. I was lucky that it worked out OK but I will not do it with my next child because since then I have heard of infants being smothered accidentally as a result. I would suggest asking your husband to carry your baby back to her crib when you are finished nursing her."
"Our son is 20 months old and often spends nights with my husband and I. We feel our family bed has served a worthwhile purpose: we rest with fewer interruptions and our son is comforted when he needs it. Our feeling is that these nights should be treasured while they last, the time will come much too soon when we'll have only memories of his sweet milk breath. Good luck!"
"I totally understand your dilemma because at 7 months old my son is up at night several times and won't go back to sleep without nursing. I, too, believed that nursing him in bed was the quickest solution to having us all back to sleep in little time. However, the downside of this thinking is that I believe a baby becomes dependent on nursing to fall asleep which is fine if you don't mind the nightly interruptions. If you are returning to work this may be a problem. I now see that I have to work harder at getting my son to sleep without dependence on me and to sleep through the night. My husband and I have started reading `Helping Your Child Sleep Through the Night' by Cuthbertson or I'd recommend any reading material on this subject. Then you and your husband take time to make a plan to suit your needs, set your goal and begin as soon as possible."
"It may be harder to get him to sleep in his own bed later on, or it may not. But face it: you need your sleep now, and you'll need it even more once you're working. Go ahead and keep him in your bed at least until you get through the stressful adjustment period of returning to work. Then worry about getting him into his own bed in a few months."
"I believe the baby shouldn't be in bed if one of the parents is uncomfortable with it. Also, I'd hate to think about those cases when an adult has unknowingly rolled on top of an infant while sleeping and smothered the child. Perhaps you could view this time before you start back to work as a training period for you and your son. If you both get into the habit of feeding and then going back to sleep in you own beds, you'll have less of an adjustment later (when you'll have even less time and energy)."
"It is much easier to do what you are doing, however I would have to agree with your husband. The baby will get used to having someone close to him while he sleeps. He has to get used to sleeping by himself in his own bed. It will be much harder to do this if you wait too much longer. You might also try expressing milk so your husband can help with night time feedings."
"We have two children, a 2 year old and a 7 week old infant. both were also breast fed and both were sleeping through the night by 6 weeks. We started a routine of bathing the baby before the final feeding of the evening before bed time. Our second cries, but eventually (less than 5 minutes) falls asleep and sleeps 7 to 8 hours straight."
"This worked for me: I nursed my baby around 10:00 p.m., and put her to bed, in her crib. The next time she woke up, I brought her to bed with me to feed her, and let her sleep with us the rest of the night. As her night time feedings stretched further and further apart, she spent more and more time in her own bed. Eventually, she spent the whole night in her own bed."
"Why don't you get a cradle and put it next to your bed. That way he will be close to you yet on his own. He may not like it al first, but eventually he will adjust to this new routine. Try to put up with the crying while he gets used to the cradle."
"Your husband has a point. It is also dangerous, because you or your husband could roll over on the baby. Maybe, you could bring your baby's bassinet into your bedroom. That way baby will be close by, and he will be sleeping in his own bed. You may also want to consider introducing a bottle so that your husband can feed the baby as well during the night."
"Our almost 6 month old son still does the same thing but I never had a problem allowing our 2 year old to be in bed with us. Three months is too young to decide that he won't sleep in his bed later on. Cross that bridge if it happens and in the mean time do what's best for you and your son right now. I know sleep is always my choice."
"Oh my gosh, don't worry! Even if you never let the baby stay in your bed, he still isn't going to want to sleep in his own bed at some point later on. It comes in `phases'. And it all comes and goes, no matter what you do or don't do. I'm on my third, and I say keep baby in you bed when you want or need to. A good book on this subject is `The Family Bed'. Even if you don't have time to read it cover to cover, be sure to pick it up from the library. It relieves a lot of doubt, concerns and guilt. My husband was dead-set against our first child sleeping some nights (or part of it) in our bed, that book changed his mind. Now, with our 3rd, he asks me to get her and bring her into our bed, even if she is sleeping! Because he works 15 or 16 hour days and this is the only time he gets to cuddle and hear her baby sighs and sounds. Also - studies have shown, as reported in the book, `SIDS' (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome) is reduced. Don't keep baby in bed for this reason though, but think of it as a benefit if you do and a confidence booster to those nay-sayers (there will be many). You only have 3 months to go before baby begins adding solids and I greatly encourage you to try and keep up the breast feeding. The pride you'll feel that you did it is indescribable. P.S. - They will sleep in their own bed at all ages, but will also have the usual `scared' periods or whatever else they `come up with' periods at times. It passes!"
"So what you have to do to get enough sleep. If your husband has a problem with the baby in bed with you, express some milk and bottle it in the evening and let him get up in the middle of the night 2 or 3 times a week."
"I'm afraid your husband is right. Allow me to recommend an excellent book called `Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child' by Dr. Marc Wiesbluch. I had a very hard time with my little girl, but by 6 months she was sleeping 9 to 12 hours a night! Your baby needs to learn to fall asleep on his own eventually. It's not easy but it can be done, and it's worth the hard work."
"I would tend to agree with your husband. I think children pick up on routines and expect them as a habit (e.g. changing a diaper always being followed by feeding). Our 2 1/2 month old knows her night time crib as being different from her day time sleeping areas, which makes it easier on us because she'll usually put herself back to sleep in her night time crib but cry for us otherwise."
"Honor your intuition."
"We faced the same dilemma! We handled it by having our daughter sleep in a bassinet (or a travel crib, etc.) in our room. To make sure that the transition from the bassinet to the crib went as smoothly as possible, we laid a flannel blanket on the bottom. When it was time to move her to the crib, we moved the blanket there, and she never had any problems adjusting to her new `bed'."
"I don't see any problem, if you can mutually agree on it. Let me tell you my experiences. Our children are welcome, if they feel the need, although we gently coax them back to bed after a short period. On nursing....I found out by nursing my baby in bed that he had soft tooth enamel. My husband, my daughter and I all have wonderful teeth. But my son came down with classic nursing bottle syndrome from night feedings. At 16 months he was put under in the hospital and had 4 teeth covered with silver, and caps put over the front two silver ones. His smile won't be the same until he loses them at 8 to 10 years. I and my La Leche League friends were floored. No one (not even the dentist) tells you this can happen with breast feeding. I felt as though I had done this to him and I cancelled nursing within the month. I still believe in breast feeding and in night feedings, but please be careful; Don't fall asleep while nursing. Don't let extra milk rest in baby's mouth. Watch frequent feeding - 6 oz. of milk given at one time will let bacteria eat at teeth for 20 minutes. If given at 3 different feedings, bacteria will be active for 60 minutes!"
"Do whatever it takes to get more sleep! Our son is 14 months old and he slept with us quite often. (I nursed until he was 1 month old.) He sleeps fine in his bed now.'
"At 3 months of age, your baby needs lots of physical contact with mom. Especially if you will be working, and away from baby for an extended period of time, allow him to be close to you at night. You'll both sleep better."
"It's wonderful that you are so enthusiastic and are continuing to breast feed your baby - you deserve a pat on the back. Breast milk is digested more easily and the baby will need more feedings. Since you are going back to work you will need more sleep to keep up your health. Your husband and you should view this time together as a special time to build a stronger bond. Your child won't be breast feeding forever and as you wean you can slowly wean him away from the bed and into the crib. That's what we did and it worked great!"
"Up to this point I don't think your son has developed any lasting impression of sleeping in your bed or his. But your husband is right, from this point (4 to 6 months) your son will start to only be able to sleep in your bed because that is the only way he knows how to fall back asleep when he wakes up in the middle of the night."
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